Letting Go: Lessons Learned

Over the past 20 years of my life, I have had to learn and re-learn the graceful and humbling art of letting go. The term itself means different things for different people. For some it means forgiving a wrong or an injustice done to them. In other cases, letting go may mean grieving over the death of a loved one. For others, like me, it means setting someone free from a relationship that is no longer serving either of you – whether it be romantic, a once best friend, a family member who is estranged, or even a long time acquaintance who has distanced themselves mutually. Whatever the case may be for you, we all go through a period of “loss” when we let go or are let go of by someone or a situation. It is in those moments of loss that we seek answers, seek comfort, seek understanding. I have no real article this day because I myself am going through a sense of loss, the details of which I am not ready to share. What I do have today, however, are several quotes that have begun to help my own heart to heal and will hopefully be helpful for anyone needing them. Here are lessons learned from quotes on letting go (quotes taken from http://thoughtcatalog.com/lorenzo-jensen-iii/2015/07/70-inspirational-quotes-about-letting-go-and-moving-on):

Never love something so much that you can’t let go of it.  —Ginni Rometty

There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.  –Jessica Hatchigan

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.  –Lao Tzu

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.  —Deborah Reber

If you didn’t love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and everything that followed it is part of letting it go.  —Sarah Dessen

When you leave, weary of me, without a word I shall gently let you go.  —Kim Sowol

They say when you really love someone, you should be willing to set them free. So that is what I am doing. I will step back and you will move on. I will let you go….Your happiness means everything to me. I will listen for your voice in the distance. I will look at the moon. I will keep you in my pocket. I will carry your smile with me everywhere, like a warm and comforting glow.  —Tabitha Suzuma

If you only knew how to respect my heart, I wouldn’t have found a reason to let you go.  —Jourdane Erasquin

Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.  —Octavia Butler

Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.  —Alice Walker

In my book series, The Last Prophet (Books One through Four, and soon Book Five), the main characters go through the journey of daily letting go. Sometimes it is past unresolved issues with departed loved ones, and other times it is letting go of addiction or control of situations that have become toxic to the character’s well-being. In each character’s situation, we see that letting go is not done overnight.

Letting go is never a one time occurrence, but rather a process… a journey, if you will. I don’t believe we can ever fully forget whatever or whomever it is we have let go of in our lives, but with each memory it does seem to become easier. As it becomes easier, we move from sorrow to nostalgia in the remembrance. Completely forgetting is impossible because we are human and as humans our minds and our bodies have memories. How these memories affect us will change over time, and how we let it control our emotions and thoughts change over time as well. For me, it will take time – how long, I don’t know. The wound seems rather fresh, and when loss is new it may seem like healing will take an eternity. I take comfort in knowing, though, that healing WILL take place.

What or who do you need to let go? How is your journey of letting go progressing? Comment in the space provided.

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